It wasn’t until I first held her in my arms and I looked into her eyes that I finally understood. I was young and did most of my learning about motherhood and myself as an individual while raising her as a single parent. For many years it was just she and I and throughout the challenging years, there were lessons of love that stayed with me always.
I finally knew what everyone meant. My life would never be the same.
My life would be all about her and it is.
I was thirty when I had my son Richie. I looked forward to being a mother for a second time.
I couldn’t wait to experience that “first moment” with my son, a feeling I only knew when I met Samantha for the first time. The movie reel brew of “love at first sight” pales in comparison to the first time a mother falls in love with her child the moment they first meet.
With my son Richie, I learned that all though my experience as a special needs parent meant a completely different path, I learned of a love unconditional. Reaching milestones takes on a whole different meaning as a special needs parent. I hold every momentous memory dear to my heart.
My life would never be the same. My life would be all about him and it is.
I was thirty nine when I first became a step-mother to Tiki. For me, being a step-mother means learning about the ever-changing boundaries that are set by a young child. I fell in love with Tiki's contagious smile and kind heart. I take great joy in his hugs, thoughtfulness, and love of family. Tiki reminds me that motherhood takes on many forms. Tiki taught me that Motherhood and falling in loving with a child doesn't always have to begin at birth.
My life is never the same after meeting Tiki. I love him and learn with him always and still do.
There will be times when you will be challenged physically, mentally, and emotionally - so much so that you might feel broken down. There will also be times when a smile, facial expression, or touch will make you feel confident and powered-up for whatever comes next. And as a mother, you’re willing to do anything to make your child happy and safe.
I wish all mothers a very happy mother’s day. You are truly valued, needed, appreciated, and honored.