1. Learn about the disability: Many families dealing with disabilities prefer that you ask them directly about their disability over assuming their interests, struggles, and inabilities. If you feel uncomfortable asking, the internet has a wealth of information on every topic imaginable. Our resources page also has information on many national disability resources out there today. The greatest act of kindness in the disability community is when someone cares enough to learn and learns how to care. Your guest will appreciate your willingness to learn about them and how to include them.
2. Be menu conscious: Make sure you’re aware of any guests with specific diets, or allergies to food or drinks. This will help with planning your menu. Most people will bring their own food if they are on special or specific diets. For example, “Gluten and Casein free” diets are expensive and difficult to follow. No one would expect you to purchase expensive foods that exceed your party budget. A best practice for the perfect host would be to find out favorite or preferred foods. Nothing says “welcome” to your guests better than having a favorite entrée or dessert served. However, being aware of these important details helps to accommodate your guests and is part of being the gracious host.
3. Sensitivity and allergy awareness: If you have a pet, you may want to make sure they’re in another room during your event times. Even if your pet behaves exceptionally well, some guests may be afraid of animals, or may even be allergic. You can’t do too much about animal dander in your home, but you can make someone feel comfortable about being in your home without the anxiety of being close to your four-legged friends!
4. Prepare an escape cove: If possible (if you have the room), designate a room or area as a private escape for guests that may need to temporarily escape noise and crowds. This is most helpful for those with sensory issues that sometimes feel uncomfortable at public events. Some children and individuals with disabilities, such as Autism or disabilities with sensory disorders, experience anxiety or melt downs in social settings, or when they feel overwhelmed by crowds. Making a place exclusively for them to have some alone time gives them the opportunity to soothe or calm themselves. When they’re ready, they can rejoin the group and the festivities.
5. Think Inclusion: Make every effort to include your guest with disabilities in your planned activities. Modify the games rules so they’re included too. If your guest is a child, ask his or her parents about how you could make it easiest for them to participate. If your guest is an adult, depending on their ability, try to assign someone as their buddy during game time (parents will usually play the role of the buddy and help their child with following the game). You may learn that some children or adults would prefer not to participate in a certain activity or any of them. Try to be understanding, and don’t push them to participate, trying new things may take time, please be patient.
Please try to be understanding if your guest needs to leave unexpectedly. Often times, people need to leave because of sensory overload, or if their participation in parties and gatherings is new, they may need to start by taking small doses of situations. This way, they’ll soon develop the ability to participate in these types of events more often than they’ve ever been able to in the past. By making your gatherings accessible to all of your guests, you’ll help them create happy memories that will last a lifetime.
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