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Have a Happy Meltdown Free Thanksgiving!

11/23/2015

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Have a Happy Meltdown Free Thanksgiving
You’re planning to celebrate Thanksgiving, but parents of children with special needs know better than anyone that celebrations like these require a little extra planning for those unexpected, or shall I write – expected tantrums!  Let’s focus on preparing for, and avoiding those challenging behaviors.  Let’s try to replace them with new traditions and fun activities.

  • Meet as a family to review and take note of the things that may upset your child and trigger undesirable behaviors. Think about the warning signs your child exhibits just before an episode. Then think of things that have worked for preventing an episode in the past. Make note of the things that make him or her happy, this could be songs, toys, games, or anything that might help to keep him or her calm. Create a plan that assigns a small role for every member of the family to assist with keeping your child calm (if appropriate).
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  • Try to keep in mind that many of our children with special needs rely on their daily routines.  They like to eat at their normal times and they know exactly when that is.  On Thanksgiving day, many families either eat dinner as early as two in the afternoon, or as late as seven in the evening. If your child will sit at the dinner table, have him or her nibble on something desirable until their scheduled meal-time.
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  • ​Please remember that Thanksgiving dinner has many foods your child may have never tried or seen before. If turkey, ham, or green bean casserole isn’t appetizing for your child, then be sure to bring something they will eat and enjoy during mealtime. It’s wonderful to introduce new foods to your child, but it isn’t fair to force them to eat something they’ve never tried before, or don't like.

  • Practice and review social skills.  Learn about what level of social skills your child is most comfortable trying. Try not to force your child to shake hands or make eye contact, this is not easy for many people without disabilities. Even if your child is only comfortable with just a tap on the hand, this is perfectly acceptable for a friendly greeting. 
  • ​If your child is anything like my son when it comes to pets, he or she may be petrified of dogs or other animals. If you’re going to someone’s home for dinner, call in advance and ask if they have pets.  If they do, kindly ask if they wouldn’t mind putting their dogs in another room while you’re there. This will help to decrease episodes of anxiety exponentially. 

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  • Ask your host if they have a room or area that your child can use for calming if things get too overwhelming for them. If not, sometimes going for a walk around the block and taking a break from the overwhelming crowd helps. 
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  • Thanksgiving festivities include watching the parade, tons of eating, and watching football.  Odds are these things won’t be peak the interests of our kids, so please be sure to bring your child’s favorite comfort items (toy, stuffed animal, ipad, etc.).  Remember to bring headphones, if your child can wear them. 
  • Review Thanksgiving happenings by using social stories, picture schedules, or just create a timeline of what to expect with printed pictures off the internet. 
  • It's customary for many to introduce themselves and say grace together at the table. Some hosts may request a brief introduction and mention one thing they are grateful for (we do this in our home). Review ways of expressing gratitude with your child. What are the things that truly matter to them?  Who do they love? How can they express gratitude for the things they have? Using pictures of the people they love and the items they cherish is a great way to include them in expressing gratitude during this Thanksgiving activity. 
  • If you’re hosting a Thanksgiving dinner for family members with disabilities and you need some ideas, please see this article: 5 Tips on How to Plan an Inclusive Gathering.
Please try not to feel bad if you and your family have to leave earlier than expected.  For years, I felt terrible and would beat myself up every time we had to make an early exit. These days I understand that some visits will be better than others.  The most important thing to remember is that you all tried and you’ll keep trying.  Before you know it, your visits will last longer and the memories you’ve created (whether in your home or the home of a loved one) will be cherished forever.
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Sincerely, Christine SensoryFriends

16 Comments
Cristina Petrini link
11/25/2019 02:20:01 pm


We are one step away from thanks and I still don't know what I will do ... thanks for these thousand ideas!

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Amber Myers link
11/25/2019 03:25:04 pm

I love these ideas. Luckily we never have many issues. The worse is food burning. Everyone gets a long, thank goodness.

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Tara Pittman link
11/25/2019 04:02:54 pm

Great tips to remember. I know when my oldest was younger, he would stress out around lots of people

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Laura G link
11/25/2019 08:45:53 pm

Those are amazing tips! Wishing everyone lots of patience this Holiday season!

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Amber Killmon link
11/26/2019 02:01:59 am

I love the idea of having a meltdown free Thanksgiving. I'm not sure it could ever happen with my family but the idea is so great.

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Agnes link
11/26/2019 03:15:54 am

Thanksgiving truly involves lots of eating and trying new things is normal for most of us. Thank you for reminding us not to force our kids to eat things that they are not used to.

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Nyxie link
11/26/2019 03:35:38 am

It can be so easy to become overwhelmed during the holidays. I'm so grateful we don't have thanksgiving here. One less family gathering for me to worry about.

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cris link
11/26/2019 05:52:44 am

You have some great tips! I think in situation like this, everyone should understand if some people have to leave earlier, or some kids need a little bit of special attention.

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Krysten Quiles link
11/26/2019 07:52:58 am

This is so helpful. I'll definitely pin this so I can share it with others. Thanks so much for sharing this with us!

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Marie Phillips link
11/26/2019 08:30:31 am

These are all very good ideas. This article is perfect for those who aren't very familiar with special needs children to be able to assist and understand what happens when routine is disrupted, even when it is for holidays and other special and fun things.

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Alvern link
11/26/2019 05:35:11 pm

Your post made me smile because family get togethers should be the time and place to feel safe, have peace and love. However, all over the world there so many people who dislike being with family.

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Mommy Sigrid link
11/26/2019 07:54:21 pm

Meltdown free thanksgiving haha Now I have learned. I don't put too much emphasis on the preparations anymore. I just want to spend time with family and have fun.

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leah
11/27/2019 02:19:56 pm

I really like these suggestions. even for kiddos or adults without social needs sometimes it is required to simply ask others to Kindly be aware of your needs!

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fashionandstylepolice link
11/28/2019 04:53:31 pm

What a great post with very useful tips for family with special needs. It can be hard sometimes with kids during the festive period.

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Eloise link
11/29/2019 06:41:31 pm

I LOVE being with my family, it's truly the best part of the holidays! (the food too, ha!)
When all the aunts, uncles, cousins, kids, parents, grandfolks, siblings (you get the picture) when we're all together it's loud, loving, and fun!

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Tisha link
12/2/2019 05:27:39 pm

Sometime its not the meltdown, but the letdown that kids won't eat everything on their plate. Holiday require much grace and realizing an early exit or a full plate is ok.

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