Please Don’t Downplay My Pain
The Grief Cycle Stages of an Autism Diagnosis and Beyond
Anger and Frustration
Sadness and Depression
I hope that when you meet a parent of a son or daughter with autism, that you please have patience with them. You will never know what phase of the cycle they’re in. The puzzling truth is that as parents, we don’t know what phase we’ll be in next either. There are moments when I forget that my son has autism. Then I see him play alongside kids his age and I’m reminded of his differences. Since Richie was four-years-old (and every other year since then) I tried to get him involved in sports, but he wanted nothing to do with it at the time. We go to his brother’s games all the time and I wish we would be going to one of Richie’s games to cheer him on. I think to myself, maybe one day. Just recently it dawned on me that my son is almost sixteen-years-old and he won’t be bugging me to drive my car or asking me to buy him a new one! He won’t be trying to sneak some pretty girl into his room or lie to me about where he and his buddies were hanging out. It’s things like these that cross my mind once in a while, but it’s a silent sadness that only other special needs parents can understand.